Granite, my T has gotten very angry during our sessions sometimes. He and I are much closer than you and your T, and I STILL get frightened when he's angry. Every time, and I mean EVERY time, it has been because of things that my family has done. I really doubt your T turned into boot camp T because she was horrified. She turned into boot camp T because she wants so desperately for you to see your own worth and stand up for yourself. At least, that's my opinion.

Big hugs. Please know that you are wonderful and valuable and not horrifying.