Your husband is bullying you. When you try to placate a bully, you reinforce the behavior. It's like giving in to a child who throws tantrums. I know it is tempting to try and stave off him escalating by giving him tidbits of info. But that is not really working either. It would be good for you to talk to the T about this. Then you need to stop discussing your therapy sessions with your husband.

I suppose that issues of security are at the bottom of it when people become over-controlling. It's still unwise to try and placate. You are in a tough situation.