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Originally Posted by Curupira
I feel you on the stress and guilt induced by trying to keep visiting relatives happy. Family dynamics are tough. Those behavior patterns are really tough to get out of.
Is there any way you can set some boundries that they will actually respect?
Good Luck!
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I would have to say no...
I have used the excuse of doctor's appointments "what's wrong? What did he say? Why did you go?" I will deflect to no avail until finally I have to say "it's really none of your business"
This results in extreme offence and words to the effect that she has a right to know because I am her daughter...
If I "have a couple of things to do" she wants to tag along.
It's possible that I will have to show her my meds bottles so that she will get a clue.
Any kind of attempt at making boundaries in my family is seen as me disliking them....