Without knowing you and how old you are, it is hard to respond. Take a look at the qualities of the friends you choose, for example, how do they treat other people besides you, are they into substances, are they religious, etc. Are these qualites that you find in them meaningful to you?
Gossip and backstabbing is hurtful at any age. I find that when i see someone doing that to others and not even me, it makes me think that I don't want to be around them. If the pattern for them is to gossip and backstab anyone, I try to find friends that don't have that quality.
Hope that this is helpful.
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