((I am....))
Ok. Im terribly sick, & have had 2 or 3 drinks to help me sleep, but I'm going to TRY to help. Sorry if I don't make any real sense right now! My head is so congested it feels like a balloon! ( I'll reread this tomorrow and see if I made any sense!)
Ok, it's good that you are the forgiving type. People who anger you or hurt you, Control you with your own thoughts, emotions, bitterness & whatever.
There is a saying that " men marry their mothers, and women marry their fathers". My father was an
alcoholic, and so were both at my husbands, so there may be some truth to that. Problem is, whether or notyou had a "good" father or say, an abusive one. If you had a good father, there's nothing wrong with your man giving you the same feeling of "love & comfort" that you feel with your dad. But if you had a bad relationship with your father, you might want to steer clear of men like that. And there are way too many men in the world to right them ALL off. Albeit the good ones are hard to find. And as far as anyone telling you you're fat....how do YOU see yourself? Don't let anyone define who & what you are! Confidence in faith in yourself can be the most attractive asset sometimes. I'm not talking "arrogance",
but just having faith in yourself & knowing who you are and your self worth.