I'm sure that this quarrel is not over yet--just postponed. IF I marry my fiancee, every holiday or special event where we use to be together is going to be marred by the sadness of this situation. There is much to consider. IF I marry my fiancee and he is not loyal to me (his new family) I will probably feel abandoned and that he doesn't really love me and is not loyal to me. IF I marry my fiancee and he is loyal only to me, he will miss his family and begin to resent me. It goes on and on...

At this point, I feel like their stance on all of this has been emotionally abusing and I ask myself, "why do I want to be around someone so hurtful and damaging?" I can only say that I think that I wouldn't choose to be around such people if it were not for my fiancee. Aargh!!!