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Originally Posted by growlithing
The problem I had was when I said I wished I had the 30 mins back to spend with her
T: "how do you think she feels about that half hour"
Me: "idk probably not a lot considering that she is dead"
T: "you have a tendency to see people as all here or all gone. How do you think she feels about you being so dismissive to her right now"
Me: "... nothing she's dead. She has no consciousness anymore"
T: "well I don't believe that. I believe she is watching you right now"
Me: "literally stop. She's not watching me partially because she is dead and I don't believe that is possible"
T: "well that's fine but..."
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That is inappropriate. Your therapist's personal beliefs are irrelevant. She can believe whatever she likes in her own time, but in your time, it's your thoughts and feelings that are relevant. And I agree that these questions would have been worth exploring if they had not been phrased in those terms.
"You have a tendency to see people as all here or all gone", forsooth. Anybody might think that that's a character failure or a logical fallacy, rather than a belief shared by millions and millions of people. What worries me a little is that if I were you, I'd really hesitate before bringing up any subject that might cause T to react like this. Maybe that won't happen with you though - I hope it won't.
I can discuss things to do with religion with my T, he is well acquainted with the religious tradition I was brought up in, although I assume that he has no personal religious belief. (I'm not saying that I do, just that I was brought up that way. Not saying I don't, either. It's irrelevant here.)