First of all, it amazes me how tight the queer community is, even in the largest city in Canada. Potential T knows current T socially and I was like, "Wow, okay." (She spent the next minute or so assuring me that it would be incredibly unethical for her to discuss me with current T unless I gave her permission so don't ever worry about that.)

Anyway, it wasn't as uncomfortable as I thought, but I don't think she's the one. She thinks boundaries need to be super strict and are super important, so that, and also she asked me when I talked about my mother's bizarre treatment of me when I was a child, she asked for an example (although to her credit, she didn't push and complimented me on my boundary assertion when I refused). I didn't start talking about that stuff with current T until we'd been seeing each other for six months. And when I asked her about how she would deal with a boundary breach, she said she can't predict the future and she didn't know; we would have to discuss it then.

She also told me that she wasn't sure we would be a good fit and she would need a few days to think about it, so I don't think it's going to work out and I'm okay with that. I felt okay with her, but not super comfortable right away like I did with current T (which is strange) or ED T. So I'm going to cross this one off the list. I have another consult tomorrow morning, and I can look at this as my dry run. I feel okay about the one tomorrow now.

I wasn't even all that nervous once I actually got there. Probably because I was wearing a blazer. I wear blazers every day for this very reason; they make me feel confident and they come off well.