My opinion is that you are showing enormous courage in confronting a very difficult circumstance. But I think you can feel comfortable in your T's ability to take care of herself, and that you don't have to. I think many of us who struggle with CSA in our past have difficulty being "selfish", or putting ourselves first. It is always appropriate in therapy, whether you are facing terminal illness or anything else, to put yourself first in therapy. It says much about the kind of connected and caring human you are that you worry about your T, but that is not a worry you need to pick up and run with. Trust her to take care of you. (CSA can make this difficult as well).

I wish you the best, and thank you for starting this thread.