Do they need to feel "perfect" or "comfy" on day one, or is feeling that way setting myself up for failure? With ED T, I think I only felt like this was a perfect fit on day one because she reminded me of my ideal fantasy mother, and with current T, it might have been because I believed so strongly in the process and had been out of therapy for awhile and needed it. This one definitely isn't right, but if I don't feel particularly "wrong" with the next two but also don't click with them right away, should I do more consults or should I give one of them a chance?

Also, I'm really appreciating current T right now...probably because her voice is naturally very soft, which is what made me comfortable with her in the first place. Even when she's being defensive/upset, her voice is soft. When people's voices are naturally louder/sharper, that makes me a lot less comfortable, even though that's just how some people's vocal chords are and has nothing to do with warmth/empathy or anything like that. It's just a handy little heuristic.