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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
It sounds like you're doing a great job of feeling out T's and looking for one that will work. Are you discussing "boundaries" in general, or are you specifically bringing up contact outside of session? For some T's, that isn't a "boundary" and they wouldn't know that's what you're referring to when you say "boundaries".
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I brought up out of session contact, told her what I needed (ex. flexible boundaries because hard rules make me anxious, and I don't want to be shamed for "breaking" them), and then asked her what her boundaries are other than that, and she said we would have to discuss them, which I didn't think was a fair answer, but it might have just meant she needed to think about the kind of commitment she was willing to make.