My wife of 20+ years was honest & loving. After I had some health issues, she had an affair about a year ago. She went to the Priest, counselors, etc to get advice whether to tell me & how to deal with her guilt. Last Summer she started continuing her cheating relationship & started loaning him money. The money issue became stressful enough that she started taking the crack cocaine instead of trying to break him of his addiction. After becoming addicted, she checked into a mental health hospital after attempting suicide. At the end of last year, she went to rehab for a month & stayed clean for another month then has started again, this time also trying Heroin. All along, she says she can't say no to the crackhead she has the relationship with. They rarely have sex even though she sleeps at his place 5 days/week. We have 2 kids still at home & she's a good mother so I don't want to divorce her for the kids sake. She says no to his initial requests for money (she has maxed out over $20,000 of credit cards and hands over her weekly paycheck) but then he starts begging & she gives in. She wants to die because she hates to give away the money. Is there a name for her condition other than maybe codependency or is there a way to stop the insanity?
Sincerely,
Desperado