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Originally Posted by Asiablue
You're so right... her answer sucked. And the answer you expected IS the right answer, that's exactly what you want to hear. You don't want a T who is reactive and bringing her own ego into your therapy.
Do these T's say they work with attachment? Because really, the things you've expressed that you do with boundaries is run of the mill client behaviour lol it's really not unusual.
It is a delicate balance between being totally honest and upfront so they know what they are getting themselves into and packaging and marketing yourself as this really awful, challenging client. Because if you do that they're just seeing a potentially (self-confessed) big problem in front of them and not Yearning, the girl, the person, the massive potential.
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To be fair, I don't think her response meant she
would get upset at me, but possibly that she doesn't know how I would define "upset" or how she would respond in a particular situation and how I would interpret that response, so she doesn't want to commit to anything. But yeah, it doesn't feel right.
This T doesn't have a lot of experience with attachment, but the one I'm seeing tomorrow does, so hopefully that will go better. I don't want to market myself as a terrible client, but I would want my T to be okay with me being a terrible client, because occasionally (fortunately, very occasionally) I am, and all I need in those moments are kindness and gentleness and understanding, rather than shame.