I'm sorry to say that the only way to stop the insanity is to stop enabling her. Take your kids and get out. Go to court, do whatever you have to do, but she is NOT a good mother. I mean really, a good mother has now become a crack head who cheats lies and steals????? I don't think so!! Get a hold of yourself and do what is necessary to protect your children and yourself from this INSANITY. Good luck to you, I know you can do this, and you HAVE to do this.