Hi neutrino, it is really good that you have started differentiating what might be your OCD and GAD, and what you should be able to "reasonably" expect/want from yourself. That can take a lot of insight!! But as you said it can be much easier said than done, letting it go when it can be so controlling.
So it is excellent that you're taking the step in wanting help from a T. It's sounding like the just "waiting" is feeling almost endless to you right now, but in the between/waiting do you think you could hook up with a online counselor? Naturally be very, very choosey if you do that......good credentials and everything, you know!!! But perhaps it could fill a gap?
And maybe your doctor could help you out (more?)? Especially with the depression and anxiety but some medications cross over into the symptoms of OCD as well.
Alison