On Tuesday I have a consultation with a urologist to have a vasectomy done. Even though I am 23 years old and many folks believe I am not old enough to make this kind of decision, I am confident that I do not and never will want children, and that this is the best decision for me. The basic reasons I have are that…

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I was abused as a child and I believe I would make for a bad father
• I don’t have the patience to raise a child or be around children.
• I don’t want the expense of having a child and have more important things, both now and in the future, to focus on.
• I believe there are enough humans populating our world as it is.
• I don’t believe I could love a child and I think it is better to not have one than resent it like my father did to me.

Overall I don’t see the purpose of having a child and don’t believe I am fit to have one. I would describe myself as somewhat anti-social, and I barely have the patience to tolerate animals like dogs and cats because I don’t like to be disturbed.

I am in a relationship and I like being in a relationship, but she understands when I need to be alone, and we can communicate with each other about our needs. A baby or a child doesn’t understand this. The thought of a screaming, whiny child or baby that needs so much attention seems like a living nightmare for me.

A vasectomy I believe is a wise decision for me, especially since I would like to have sex too and want to reduce the risk of pregnancy as much as possible.

However I worry that having a vasectomy done is a selfish decision; my mother talks incessantly about wanting grandchildren, and I fear that if she were to find out about this she would be hurt.

At the same time, I don’t want to live my life how she wants me to, because it is my life, and I do believe this is something that is best for me.

What are your thoughts?