I think not calling him is a very good idea. I think during this time, you should work through your feelings. I'm hopeful you will be able to accept your friend's girlfriend. Somewhere down the road your relationship may be able to be repaired.

We are co-dependents. We need the approval and support of others to validate our lives. It's a very difficult way to live our lives. We need to learn to stand on our own. We need to have friends that are there for us, but that we don't base our lives around. Friends we can be happy for as they go through their lives and friends that we can support and can support us as we each face life's challenges.

I can appreciate the fact that he is one of only a few people in your life, but it's a lot of pressure for your friend to have to balance your's and his girlfriend's needs. You should try to find a way that he isn't such a big part of your life, to bring more people into your life.

I had the opportunity to join a therapy group that focused on co-dependency. It was so helpful, I learned a lot about myself, but I also learned to stand on my own. And as an added bonus, the women that were in the group with me have become very good friends.

Are there any co-dependency support groups near you? If you are seeing a T, you should ask him/her to help you work through your co-dependency issues. They are usually rooted in some past trauma or due to some needs not being met as a young child. My co-dependency was due to being ignored as a child and I was able to work through that.

Also, possibly find some hobbies that will get you outside and around other people who can potentially become your friends.