Woowww ok bumping this thread. I'm kind of speechless right now...

I decided to give this therapist another chance and ended up staying with her for a few more sessions. My last session with her was on 2/24. By that point, I was just DONE with her. There were so many red flags of weird/dangerous therapy.

So, on the day of what was supposed to be the next session, which would have been 3/3, I decided to not show up. I know, I know. But, this therapist was adamantly against emailing and I just knew that if I called she would try to talk me into staying with her. Also, she never had me sign any paperwork so I knew I wasn't contractually obliged to pay her. I figured when I didn't show up she would take the hint.

A few days later, I received a handwritten letter to my house saying "Dear _____, I'm worried about you. You didn't show up to your appointment. Please let me know if you're ok."

I wrote a short letter back saying "I apologize for not calling. I have decided to end therapy with you and will no longer requiring your services."

Today, I received another hand written letter. This is what it said.

"Dear _____,
Thank you for your letter. I am sorry you are ending. You have not been in therapy long enough with me to see how negative patterns from childhood continue to be repeated.

For example, your father did not make you see your mother after she left you [inserting to add that this therapist was obsessed with focusing on how my mother "left me" when this wasn't the full story at all; I constantly tried to talk about the full story and reality of what happened when I was a teenager regarding my parents' divorce, but she was so intent on convincing me that my mother abandoned me that she refused to see it any other way] when you were 14. teenagers are not capable of being a fair judge in decision making. Thus you were abandoned by both parents. You were left alone to take care of your childlike father and to worry about your brother for years with nobody looking out for you.

You are repeating this now, abandoning yourself, by giving up therapy again. Choosing to not continue is a dangerous choice. You are being the same parent to yourself as your parents were to you. Your life will continue with you feeling desperate, scared, and alone [none of which I actually feel].

People who continue with the hard, painful, costly work of therapy have better, happy lives. I hope you come back. My door is always open to you."

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I called her back and left a voicemail, quite angrily asking her to please not contact me again, and explaining that I have pursued therapy elsewhere with someone who is helping me in a more healthy and constructive way.

I am reeling from this letter. This is weird, right? I am honestly worried that she is going to continue to try to contact me and get me to come back.