My goodness did your post help. Thank-You. Thinking about how he is staying boundried is seriously going to keep me sane and reduce my suffering. You are right, he is being professional. I know others will disagree with his approach and perhaps think it cold or uncaring, but it fits well for me. I would *HATE* it if he did half the things i read about on here (hugs, personal disclosure, giving his opinion a lot). Normal attachment, this is what i will keep telling myself.
Seriously thank you so much.