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Originally Posted by notgoodenuf
I think the closer you are to T, and perhaps the more vulnerable you are about self-image, the more his/her comments will have an affect on you. The lack of positive feedback is definitely felt in therapy. It also just reinforces the negativity you feel about yourself. I see compliments as a good thing.
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And so we should! We should see it as a good thing because the alternative is to believe that if a T gives us a compliment it's not sincere and that might lead us to question whether we can trust what T says at all. And going from there, whose compliments do we believe then?
I am so fed up with the notion that just because something is positive, it might need to be questioned.. You are right, the lack of positive feedback is felt in therapy. But it shouldn't be. It absolutely shouldn't! It should be part of the process of repair.