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Originally Posted by hankster
I would not disagree. I see it as, i have let my t know i need positive reinforcement in some area, probably an area i am insecure in because i have taken a beating in it all my life, say from my family. For example, my intelligence. So, to counteract their innumerable negative messages, he gives me positive ones. Its weird because im always surprised when he says it, as if its the first time ive heard it. Thats whats really disturbing. This bucket has a hole in it - can it ever be filled?
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So you asked your T to give you more positive reinforcement and then, when he does give this to you you question the sincerity of it because you have asked him for it in the first place?
So in your mind, he might just say it because he thinks you need to hear it? If that were true, wouldn't that make him a lousy therapist? Wouldn't that make you question how good he is for you?
It begs the question, why did you ask him for positive reinforcement when you already believe that if he would give it, you could question it?
I don't believe T's only give us positive feedback to counteract the negative we have experienced. Often they actually mean what they say.