My T told me many months ago that he does not give compliments in order to boost up a client's self esteem, but recently he has given me what felt like genuine compliments and they made my day...no, week! He has called me brave, honest, introspective and intelligent. Are these earth-shattering? No, but coming from him they make me feel great. Even though I "love" my T (huge transference, and it's no secret to him) I would be sad if he complimented my appearance, clothes, or anything other than what's relevant to our time together. Part of the reason I love him is because I know he's ethical and honest and I can trust him 100% with my feelings of love without feeling like I shouldn't have them, talk about them and explore them openly and without judgment. If he were to ever tell me I was pretty (or something similar) I would immediately lose faith in him.