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Old Mar 15, 2014, 10:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Amelia112 View Post
So you asked your T to give you more positive reinforcement and then, when he does give this to you you question the sincerity of it because you have asked him for it in the first place?
So in your mind, he might just say it because he thinks you need to hear it? If that were true, wouldn't that make him a lousy therapist? Wouldn't that make you question how good he is for you?
I didnt directly ask my t - i let him know by what i told him about my past.

I dont question his sincerity. That doesnt necessarily mean i believe it! But he asked me to trust him to do his job, and after a while i did.

If he says something because he thinks i need to hear it - imo, that would make him an excellent therapist. Its all in how you look at it, right?

The point of my post was more that it is very difficult to overcome the programming of our past. Thats the bucket. Its kinda scary.

I often question how good my t is for me. But i can see big differences in how i interact with people now as compared to a few years ago, and i am pretty sure that can be attributed to my work with him and on PC.
Thanks for this!
BonnieJean