My mom had personality issues, i think she had narcissistic traits. I remember that when I was a kid I was convinced she did not love me. She would never show affection, the only time she kissed me was for birthdays and Christmas. I was very surprised when I discover that other little girls had a close relationship with their mom, it was embarrassing to see other children hugging or kissing their moms. Like you, I felt many times she fulfilled her maternal role because she had to. She did all her chores and all what she was expected to do. Hope this is helpful to you.