The whole maternal transference thing is so hard isn't it? I've struggled with it re: T off and on and only recently I think I may have finally begun to work through/past it, by seeing that I've gotten the mothering I needed my whole life from other women first my grandmother, girl scout leaders, friends of my mom's actually, teachers, a pastor at church, a couple of female bosses, lastly t (this a progression through young me through gradeschool, middle school, high school, college, work and therapy) and I was able to name every single one of them. So that helped me see that even if I didn't get what I needed from my mother, I did get what I needed growing up. I've been doing a lot of work lately around my "mother issues" and have come to a place where I have forgiven her. I just talked to her this morning in fact and even invited her to come visit me in May. (I live in AZ and she lives in IL so I don't see my family very often.) I feel very much at peace with inviting her to visit, excited even. What a difference 2+ years of therapy has made for me especially in this regard. Oh and the maternal transference I've felt for t? At the moment, I don't feel it at all. I won't be talking to her again until the end of April, and I feel very good about that as well. Sorry to carry on so long but I wanted to share that there is light at the end of the tunnel re: transference. It takes a lot of work, but if I am getting there, anyone can!