I went through a phase like that where therapy was all-consuming and I couldn't think about anything else. I talked with my t about it of course. We did twice weekly sessions for a bit during that stretch. To me it seemed like yes, I had to be consumed with it, I had to kind of "un-ravel" as you said so I could put myself back together again the right way this time. Something like that. The most important thing to me is that when I got all overwhelmed and all-consumed and wanted to quit because of it, t offered the twice-weekly thing instead of letting me quit - and what that did, instead of making it worse, made it MUCH better because of the whole "T containing your process" thing. I had her to contain it twice a week, instead of only once, and that made it more manageable. Not sure I make sense but I tried. I wish you all the best with this yes therapy is very hard work and I think that we are all very brave for doing it. If more people in the world were brave like us and did this work it would be a much better world. You know? So keep up the good work. You can do this! (btw I totally relate to the magic wand comment. I have asked my t several times "why can't you just wave your magic wand and fix me?" to which she always replies "You know that's not how this works. And besides, you're not broken." One of the BEST things she ever said to me that I will hold in my heart forever.)