My partner and i have nearly been together for a year. We have had alot of outside influence try and ruin our relationship or accusations thrown at us which has caused alot of stress for us both. If i could have stopped it or controlled it i would have.
Now he has been pushing me away and not treating me like he use to. I am so in love with this man like i have mever been in love. His actions or should i say inactions are killing me like i am being punished for what is going on. He tells me that he shuts down when shot like this happen and dosnt wNt to talk to anyone. And because im a talker and try and get through this together by opening up about all my feelings he says im pushing him to do it and it males him angry and shut down more.
The more i read about BPD the less it sounds like him and i talked to him about it and now he tells me he also has PTSD. He has told me Bout his horrible childhood and it has made him who he is. Very cold negative and hateful towards everyone
But i fell in love with the other side of him and i have tried to tell him that and tell him i accept him the way he is and im not running when it gets hard. Im so confused about our relationship cos he is still all closed but says he loves me and even said he was in love with me when i asked. He dosnt call me by my pet name anymore either which really gets to me. I do all the instigation of any affection and talking now.
What do i do, do i step back and just let him be and wait for him to come to me hoping he starts treating me like he use to? Please help i am deeply in love and have told him i am not gunna run cos things are hard but im dying inside cos its all about how he feels and nothing about me.

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