Bpd people. That's a label and offensive. No we react extreme as it hurts us more than people without bpd. I as a borderline traits 'person' is total opposite ... Tho I I between shifts of closing down and bein completely dependent in my relationship. I also suffer PTSD it is not to be taken lightly and this has serious effects ontop bpd. He is going thru a tough time. Don't be hard on him. Bpd I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. So many conflicted feelings and guilt ridden feelings too and PTSD ontop of it is a toughie. Is it around the time of his bad happenings coming to a peak? I find I usually close off and get extremely anxious, cold and angry around the time every year when my bad thing happened?
Be patient, if he sees ur giving him space and still there he will come to his senses again x