Thanks Leah -Asking - I always forget that one.. the fact I can just ask.. T and me have talked about this. The fact i always thought i needed to deserve attention and in fact i could just go speak to her without any problems and that would be fine!

When i first brought this up ages ago we did talk a lot about my 'needs' and perhaps asking for what I needed. I remember T saying what do you need? - obviously in my head i knew - i could have blurted out just a hug or someone to consistently be there. However, i was like .. i don't know. Then I wrote down what i needed and i did say all of those things! But we never really talked about it - maybe because she could sense the anxiety around it - i think we may have left it as: I can get my needs from form my friends but yes i'm not going to find a mum to fulfill those needs .

That's why I don't really want to bring it up again.. if we've kinda been there done that. But we haven't talked about the perhaps lengths i'd go or did go in the past. I have drafted an e-mail to T that explains my post - i may send but not sure yet! Thank you