I find that when I'm saying terrible things and doing irrational acts out of my irritability it is helpful to find one thought or idea or maybe even an action (pinch self, hold breath, close eyes) and try to train yourself to activate it when you realize you are out-of-control irritated.

Who cares if you look dumb or whatever your hang-up for it may be?? You look even dumber screaming at the cat, or assaulting the old lady who cut you off. That irritability is so irrational and I always feel ashamed afterwards. You realize you would feel even worse with a host of legal and criminal problems too.

Does the irritability to you seem to maybe be an aspect of not being able to understand how other's thought processes really work? I find myself wondering what its like to be more stable naturally.