I am glad you found this site. You were the child of mentally ill parents and still are the parent of a mentally ill mom. What is most important now is for you to take care of yourself. You will have anger feelings, guilt, shame. Find a caregiver support group in your area, and see if there are senior groups and/or adult day care centers for mom. She needs to have a life beyond you and your family. It is extremely unhealthy that she will be relying on you for everything. As she goes to senior activities or adult day care she will establish relationships with peers that are more normal and make her less emotionally dependent on you. You need to find a place to voice the questions and feelings that are bound to come up with your being mom's caregiver. I hope this helps. Sorry if I came on too strong, I guess I just feel strongly about it. My best.