Thank you wisewoman; not too strong at all in your response to me. I just get confused thinking that I am making too much about nothing when it comes to my childhood and I feel bad for thinking of my mom as mentally ill.

I have had to go through major guilt telling my mom that she has to make her own life now that dad has passed away because she was very very angry at me for not taking her camping with us all the time, etc. She finally acknowledged that she looks to me too much to make a life for her. I told her that I didn't mind her moving in with us and that we would make a place for her to live, but we would not make a life for her.