Hi Bete, DO NOT say "Yes" straight away (!!), but are you
absolutely,
1001% sure that the other "15" things
need fixing?
What's a "flaw" to one person can sometimes be
just the opposite to someone else, you know. Now I'm not ignoring that you might really like to change those things, but maybe if you saw them through "different" eyes"???
And if you think about it there's probably going to be millions of things that make us US, that make us
unique.........so come on "15" things (even
if I were to go with "they could be better"-
which I aren't!!) that doesn't
have to be major does it??.
Then there may be ways you can knock down, or minimize
some of those things. Slight ways, doesn't have to be radical afterall.
AND where are
all those things you can admire about yourself in all of this??
I know they're there!!! But maybe you're more losing sight of them with the things that have bothered you. Now even things like "you can care about others" are a
real,
real big deal!! Although I'm sure there are
plenty more things if you think (
hard?) about it.
And tell you what, one thing I can say about you,
myself, is that you don't think weight is the "be all and end all" of
everything. Now that is a
big deal compared to some people's opinions in society. So there you go, something more to admire in yourself!!
And
I want you to keep adding to things you can admire about yourself, got that??!!
And being pretty, would you
really want someone/people to "rate you" because you're "pretty" anyway??
Much more to you than that if you've started/when you start that list of things to admire about yourself!! So anyone who focuses mainly on your looks aren't going to be that important to you anyway, right??
Having said that "prettiness" can come from
so many different aspects e.g. your smile, your eyes, your character showing through........You might tell me that those aren't "pretty" but you do know (
even if only deep, deep down) you are being kind of hard on yourself don't you????
AND believe it or not (!!
)
someone is going to find you pretty!!
Best wishes
Alison