He doesn't do drugs and normally doesn't drink at all, although there have been times where he's drunk a lot because he was upset, and that makes things worse (only maybe 3 times in the last year). It's been good again since that outburst but I still feel a bit unsettled because I don't feel it's been properly dealt with. I've decided with my therapist that the best thing is just to be there for him and be patient, but if he starts to be rude or has a tantrum to just leave the room. I want to agree this with him but Idon't know how to bring it up when he's in a good mood without putting him in a bad one. Also, in the past when I've let him cool off for a few hours after him storming out etc it's made things a lot worse (drinking alone, cutting himself, sending me frantic begging/insulting texts...)and he's accused me of not being there for him. Can't win really :/