oops i just asked on the couch if you deleted this! i missed it on the first go-round.

I REALLY agreed with RTS and Sierra's thoughts on this. How maybe your T is angry at the situation and not you, but you perceive her as being mad at you. Do you think there could be any truth in that? Because whenever you have Boot Camp T, and you are brave enough to ask her about it, she explains how she wasn't angry at you. I just find it hard to believe she suddenly gets angry at you.

Maybe she is just being more explicit in her advice because it concerns your son? I wishyou wouldn't "take myself out of the equation" when dealing with your father. She is just saying that it isn't healthy to have your son (or you!) around your dad because he is so awful to him (and you!). Not that she is thinking you are so horrible for doing it.