Thanks for elaborating Knave, having more information is better than less... especially in understanding peoples.

I'm still of the mind that she handled the situation poorly and that her actions were unprofessional. She hurt you deeply too it seems... that's the main issue in regard to the terminating process.

Broken relationships are always the hardest thing in life for me and I carry every one of mine with me everyday. And that's not good. I truly understand that you'll be going through a difficult time for a while over this; and this is why I think that what she did and how she handled this situation was more destructive than anything therapeutic. Her actions are going to hold you back from "recovery" for a long, long time... IF you don't force yourself to get back into therapy.

But this is the way that OCD kills us daily; it robs us of the ability to enjoy all the other beautiful things in life while we hyper-focus on certain things. (And those certain can be both important and not so important, regardless of which they might be our inability to switch gears and diversify our attention is the most important issue, imho.)

With that in mind, I hope that you can grieve this loss of relationship and find another T ASAP... even call her office and accept her referral. Regardless of how she handled the situation, perhaps her intentions were well-meant? She was dealing with a difficult situation and fumbled. I would hope that she refers you to either a male or a really unattractive female T (j/j) because the reason that you're going to a T in the first place is to learn how to live a fulfilling life with OCD, right? You need less distractions from that goal, not more.
Furthermore, I believe that the prize of a "happy life" is achievable, for you... not perfect, not 100% bliss every day 24/7... but something much better than hurting all the time.
Please, please, please... get up and find someone to help you through this.