Thanks Angela, I have more of a relationship now with my mom than I ever did, but it's still hard because it's like I keep getting new insight about growing up (like the fact that when I left home at 22 when I got married, I had 17 cavities because I wasn't taken to the dentist, etc.) and that to me was at least physical neglect and I was able to deal better with these revelations into myself because I could talk them out with my husband, but now that my mom has moved in, I almost feel suffocated at times. I think my home as an adult used to be happy to me and now that my mom lives with us, it feels weird.