Awww, baking cookies for people is sweet!

I did some more thinking about this last week and came to the conclusion that I really do have a fundamental problem with a few friends. I just don't want to be friends with these people and have a hard time dumping them.

One of them is someone I never really clicked with in the first place - we were part of a group of friends. The group members I was close to have since moved and it's only me and this woman I never liked that much remaining.

She is a nice person and I still see her every couple of months when our group gets together... but she is a talker and wants wayyyy more contact than I do. I wouldn't mind seeing her once every couple of weeks, but if I see her once, she starts asking to see me every other day.

I think I've resolved that one. I told her that my schedule has changed and I'm no longer available during the day.

The other is a friend I used to be very close to, but I just don't want to be around her anymore. I don't know if it's medication or dementia, but 75% of the time I see her, she will not shut up. She's extremely inflexible about when/where/how we meet-- if it's not a set up for me listening to her, she's not interested. This drives me especially nuts because I know she does cultural things with other people. She used to do them with me (museums, music, etc), but then I guess she noticed that I'm a good listener.

I don't know what will happen with her, but I've been so discouraged by seeing her for so long, that I don't really care if I upset her at this point. After going back and forth with her pointlessly about getting together, I just flat out told her that I wanted to do something that wasn't sitting around talking over food. She hasn't responded. Maybe she never will

The awkward bit there is that she recently became involved in a group my mother is a part of. I'm a bit worried she will say something inappropriate to my mother.

I am not sure why I get so obsessively worried about these relationships, but I have been lately.