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The therapist serves us. We pay them for a services and the service is different for all of us. I would not want to see a therapist for free. I feel they would not do the best they could for you for free than if they had to earn their fee. I do not want my therapist worrying about how he is paying his bills. If the client cancels or quits he does not get paid. He put in the work, the years and the sacrifice to get the degrees and go through the training. I admire that. I can not make it through college.I often think about if I had 30 clients just like me. That would be a rough week at the office. He deserves his money even if it is a paid friend. My needs are being met.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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