My parents did the same things, shame, blame, abuse each other, and me, emotionally, physically.
Do I hate them for it? Sometimes the anger about who I became, because of how they were, makes me want to turn away, and then I've hurt myself over and over through the years, because I felt no good, worthless, tears over and over, I tried so hard to be what they wanted me to be....the shame they gave me...
No, some people shouldn't be parents.
I've got to turn it into a learning experience. I don't ignore my sons feelings, I don't shame them, I don't hurt them physically or with words. Thank god I got out and away from the abuse of my sons father. Now I need to get myself back to the moment, go be there for him, and be a good mother myself.
I believe we all have to forgive and forget, or we'll drive ourselves crazy.