needarealitycheck
I've got to turn it into a learning experience. I don't ignore my sons feelings, I don't shame them, I don't hurt them physically or with words. Thank god I got out and away from the abuse of my sons father. Now I need to get myself back to the moment, go be there for him, and be a good mother myself.

I married an abuser too, glad you've got away. You sound like a fighter, your sons are lucky.
lotsa hugs