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Originally Posted by pinkbutterfly
He was so gentle and sweet and tender. And we have had sex a couple of times. I did not meet him in a public place. He came over to my house today on his lunch break from work (he works really close by).
I really like this guy...but I also realize I probably should not have had sex with him so soon...but I wanted to. It was really good. And I feel good. I just worry about telling her everything. It wasn't a one night stand sort of thing...we are going to continue seeing each other. I want to - and I want to continue having sex with him.
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Firstly, I'm so sorry about the rapes and assault you have suffered. I'm really glad you realize they are not your fault at all.
Apart from that, I've clipped bits out of your post - it sounds like this relationship with the new man is full of GOOD things! Which is great
He sounds very respectful, and you obviously trust him enough to relax and enjoy sex with him. This is wonderful, and I'm sure your therapist will be pleased for you.
The only thing I will say is - if you have a niggling in your head, about what your T might say - are you sure there is no nagging doubt in your own mind about whether this new man is 'too good to be true'? Are there any red flags at all? When I say that I mean things like possessiveness or declarations of love at such an early stage - imo, it can be great to have a good sexual relationship with somebody early on, as long as both of you know where you stand and have genuine mutual respect, but love takes longer, and I would be wary of anyone making a lot of future plans or talking about love very early on. Just my 2 cents though.
I hope it all works out the way you want to and that you feel comfortable discussing it with your T!