If you don't want sex, then you don't want it, and he should not ever force you to do it. You should be able to say no, and he respect that, not be "demanding" about it. Don't have sex just because he wants to. It'll make you feel exactly how you are feeling now, degraded, used, and raped. Though I would not call it rape unless you said no and he did his thing anyway, I am hearing that you just went along with it willingly, though your heart wasn't in it. If I am wrong, correct me. Don't ever let him do this to you. It needs to be mutual. This is probably why your relationship is on edge now. It is not "cute" that he demands sex. It is awful. I have a higher sex drive than my husband, but I would NEVER ask him to have sex with me if he didn't want to do it. I would never demand it. That is horrible. You aren't married to him just to be a sex doll. You are his wife, and more than just someone he can **** whenever he wants.