let me just start off by saying im 21 my gf is 17 almost 18. weve been together for almost 3 years and my gf is almost 4 months pregnant. due date is around september 20th. now my problem is my gf.. i know she is hormonal/emotional/her life and body is forever changed yada yada(not to be a ****). for as long as me and my gf have dated shes never seemed the materialistic type or gold digger. shed always say she like something and id always offer to buy it for her. i dont shower her in gifts but i do try to buy her stuff now...and then. about a year or 2 ago i was working 12 hour shifts at my work 5-6-7days a weeks(it varied), i made great money and i wasnt around alot for 3 or 4 months i was usually to tired to really hold a conversation with her plus i was graveyard shift. so for christmas i bought her a $900 necklace from tiffany. nothing changed, she didnt start begging i buy her stuff or none of that. although the other week i tried talking to her about getting married. im like most guys, i cant read minds. so while talking to her about it she said we didnt have the money(she was thinking about an actual wedding while i meant just legally for now) i said about how we could do it cheap for now and her response was "an engagement ring is supposed to be about 3 months salary" and i told her most people dont have a kid on the way. needless to say the convesation ended there. now with that said, more on the situation. im currently going to trucking school, i plan to do OTR(being gone for 2-3 weeks) until next spring when i can apply for a dump truck or state job. my gf works once a week for her moms mary kay director, doing the desk work so to speak of mary kay and babysitting her 3 kids. she makes like 80-100 a week. shes "attempted" "if you will" to look for jobs in the past. but none "suited" her. now with a baby on the way she is refusing to look for a job "bc she doesnt want to get a job then take off for 3 months or so when the baby is born." if any of you fully grown adults then you and i are thinking the exact same thing after the last statement. now we have not view in breaking up. were actually perfect for the most part. although with a 3rd person in the mix everything becomes brain surgery. before she was ever pregnant we used to share our dreams of our future lives, id always joke around about how shed be a stay at home mom and blah blah. now we both know that is not possible yet she still hasnt even attempted to look for a job. she is the jealous type but its gotten to the point now where shes getting pissed bc one her friends apply for a job that she hasnt even picked up an application for. and about her friends. she just told me recently that now that she cant party shes got next to nothing in common with any of her friends. while awhile back a mutual friend of ours told me to be careful bc my gf told them that after the baby is born my gf thinks shell still be able to go out and party all the time. now maybe im just being overly sensitive and paranoid but if im gonna be working nonstop to support us while she sits around playing stay at home mom(just thought ill add my gf is one of the laziest person i know) and then go out and party while someone else babysits cuz im wokring all the time to pay all the bills, i have a MASSIVE F****** PROBLEM with that!!! keep going.. everything i have to say about our kid means nothing to her. no matter what it is. she acts like shes raised a kid before. its SOOOOO FRUSTERATING!!! now she knows im not gonna be around all the time after a few weeks and someone just told me earlier that my gf is getting annoyed with how much we talk and hang out cuz "she knows im gonna be around for the rest of her life" yet freaks out when i dont text her back right away. honestly im just getting tired of being the only one who cares about our lives.

I just dont know what to do. i mean if im working all the time and yet shes just sitting around spending my money and partying all the time i gotta leave her. i think.? idk what would you guys do? or recommend. my mind has been racing for 3 months now and i still feel lost and confused..