I'm not sure if I missed it, does your current husband abuse you or does he just look like your previous abuser? These are two very different and important things. If he looks like your abuser and abuses you (other than touching skin accidentally while sleeping) get the hell out now!

If he looks like your abuser but doesn't abuse you, you owe him an explanation. You need to ask yourself, if he didn't look like my abuser, would I love him? I assume at some point you loved him or you wouldn't have married. So the question becomes what changed. Was there a mannerism or behavior on his part that triggered your subconscious. If you loved him and he loves you, you owe it to both of you to try working it out. I would not try it alone. The fact that he looks like your abuser is serious enough to require some intensive focused discussions. If it's just his looks, it seems like the problem is more yours than his. But he needs to know why you shy away from his touch, why you act afraid, maybe even terrified around him.

Yes having someone in your home who reminds you of some awful times is horrendous, bit not the end all be all. The ball is in you court, and the first question you must ask yourself is if he had a different face would you love him. Physical appearances can be overcome. Physical and emotional abuse not as easily.

Good luck and keep us posted.