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Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12
... and if people don't know what they want and not tell the person they want to be in a relationship what they need and want, which is common place unfortunately how could anything work out with anyone? other than going to certain places where people use their brains not their emotions
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Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12
Do the people who have very long lasting relationships and the people who enjoy going into and out of good healthy relationships both have the right way going bout how they think something should work?
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Well, knowing and telling your partner what you want is only part of it. The other part is being concerned with what your partner wants out of the relationship as well. I've seen a big growth in the "I'm not getting my needs met" perspective in relationships, but there's a missing component. A relationship is a partnership and it's not just one sided. Both parties add to the relationship so when someone is "not getting their needs met" they aren't just the victim, they're contributing to the problem.
Which is why parents are so important. Children grow up modeling their behavior after their parents and if they don't learn how to interact with a member of the opposite sex, then when they get older, they can have difficulties in that relationship merely because they aren't experienced on how to handle the emotions and interactions with their partner.
My marriage has made it 13 years not because we're flawless people, but because we're dedicated to each other, not just our own interests.