I've been in this SAME exact situation numerous times. I know what you mean by her being the standard for women. I have been infatuated with multiple women who I felt I couldn't be complete without, and needed to hear from them in order to be happy. I know that feeling, believe me, especially about them being the ONLY one. But that's the thing! Each one of them was "the one". That's contradictory! So I came to the conclusion that they must not have each been the one if I soon fell for someone else. With that said, only time will heal it, but you will move on once you find someone else you fancy. Right now I am looking at facebook and see a girl I was OBSESSED with for a good 3 years of my life, and at the time I would constantly look at her facebook and imagine being with her, constantly just thinking about her and how I could be in her life. Well, now when I see her name on facebook, honestly don't even care, and don't even bother going to her profile. I moved on and so will you. message me if you need someone to talk to.