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Old Mar 18, 2014, 04:23 PM
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Hi ToeJam, the therapy seems to be going a little down the lines of YOU and HER instead of YOU and HER. As in you both being in this together, a partnership, you both working together as a "team" if that makes sense?
Now I'm not for a second saying you're not "complying" but it shouldn't really be as much about "complying" it's should be more about you being able to take more control, more of a lead in working forward.
Do you think you'd be able to talk to her about discussing between you the way forward? And if she's going to give you "assignments" then maybe agree the pro's and con's between yourselves (and prepare yourself with her support for any con's if you're doing them!).
You might well still end up with assignments which are "uncomfortable" but then at least you know that and how they may be in your best interests and would have been part of the consideration. Do you think that might give you a bit more faith in her and the relationship if she's/you're both working towards a mutual goal and in agreement with things?
And if you're unhappy with what she's saying/doing, just be straight up about that, openness has to be a good thing in therapy!! Nothing wrong with that!!
Some things she might be able to explain, some things she might be able to justify, some things she might be able to learn more about you, some things might point to different kinds of support you need.
She might not always get things right, you might not always see "eye to eye" on things but all relationships are going to be like that........as long as you get to feel that you're being acknowledged, hey?
As for being alone in the office.......next time just think about how much more work you're going to get done without other people around/talking!! Think about the peace, the quite, the freedom to think (including positive thoughts!!) Make it work for you!!
Alison
Thanks for this!
ToeJam