i hadn't heard of transference neurosis until last night either. but now it is making more sense to me why my t keeps saying things like 'i am NOT your parents' etc etc etc.

i'm trying to curb this...

but it doesn't seem to be helping. and i think... it is turning a bit nasty too :-( not in a dangerous way (an objectively dangerous way that is) but just in a back off mr. kind of way...

i think transference neurosis is just an intense transference response. most people grant that transference is a feature of most of our relationships. transference neurosis is when the therapist becomes the most emotionally significant person in your life. can lead to obsessional thoughts or very frequent fantasies or whatever.

what i was reading last night regarded transference neurosis to be necessary for a successful working through. but then they were talking about 3-5 sessions weekly and the therapists acting as a 'blank screen' in order to intentionally build the transference into a neurosis...

other therapists try and work through transferences as they arise and attempt to be more interactive and have less sessions in order to intentionally try and curb the transference developing into a neurosis.

i guess that even with those who regard transference neurosis to be necessary there is a considerable difference between obsessing a little and obsessing a lot. a difference between regressing in sessions (at at some points out of sessions) and really regressing across the board and disintegrating... though... some people think it is fine to hospitalise clients for a few weeks while the worst of the working through is done...

ak...

i'm fairly sure this is NOT going to be happening with me.

this is partly why i was concerned about more frequent sessions. we are going to comprimise: see each other every friday and every second tuesday. see whether that makes things better or worse for me.

i'm a bit afraid because w. isn't thinking so kindly of him... and k is feeling really dependent and she won't stop crying because she wants to meet him... but there is no way w is going to let that happen and if he gets too close j is gonna start screaming...

ak...

:-(