Wow. That is such an accurate description of the relationship dance. I have always kind of felt like I just don't quite get it. Like sometimes when my mood is stable or I'm hypomanic I feel a connection to people and have the energy to truly do the work to maintain the relationship...when I'm slipping and feeling depressed I can barely manage to maintain basic life function. And I just can't reveal that to most people. I know if I did they would run. I have to hide it. And I can't handle that either.